As a result, it is best to deal with worry and anxiety in a constructive way so as to reduce and manage the stress it causes. Here’s how:1. Pinpoint the Cause. Identify the source of your concern. This will help you to evaluate what would be a constructive reaction or way to handle the situation.
2. Journal Your Concerns. Once you have identified the cause of your worry, you should take a few minutes to journal your feelings. Ask yourself some of the following questions: Why am I worried about this situation? Has something happened in the past that is causing me to worry about this situation? What are my biggest fears? How will the worst-case scenario impact me and/or my family? Free-flow journaling helps you to tap into your sub-conscious, where some of your deepest concerns reside. This will help you to understand where the source of your fears are coming from and whether or not they are based on your current situation or rooted in fears from your past.
3. Assess the Validity of Your Fears. Once you have documented your feelings and concerns, take a moment and assess their validity. Are they based in reality? Do they directly impact your life? Are you blowing a situation out of proportion? Are all of your fears hypothetical or are they based on real experience? Asking these questions will help you assess how much of your fears are based on realistic concerns and how much are built out of fear itself.
4. Assess Your Ability to Control the Situation. You then need to assess whether you can actively address the situation. Is any part of the situation under your control? If no part of the situation is under your control, acknowledge that and find ways to let go (see #6). If, however, there is a part of the situation that you can control, think about how you can address it and how you can best alleviate your worry.
5. Take Action. If your solution requires several steps, then set a goal and make a plan with deadlines. Taking action moves us from a mode of fear and the role of “victim” into a mode of “action” and into the driver’s seat.
6. Let Go. Once you have taken action, and there is nothing more you can do to help the situation, let go. Worrying won’t make anything better. A few ways to achieve this include: focusing on something else, spending time with others, meditating, listening to music and exercising.
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